After a while, you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul.
You learn that love doesn’t mean sex, and that a company doesn’t mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses are not contracts and presents are not promises. You begin to accept your defeats with head high and with eyes open.
And you learn to build all your roads of today, because tomorrow´s ground is too uncertain for plans, and futures have a way of falling down in pieces. After a while your learn that even sunshine burns if you get to much.
You plant your own garden and you decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for some one to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong and that you really have a worth, and you learn and learn.
With time you learn that to be with some one who offers you a good future, means that sooner or later you will want to go back to your past. With time you understand that only who is able to love you with your defects and without trying to change you, will be able to give you all the happiness you wish.
With time you find out that if you are at the side of that person just so as to accompany your loneliness, irremediably you will finish hoping not to see him/her again. With time you understand that true friends are counted, and who doesn't fight for them sooner or later will see himself surrounded by false friends.
With time also you learn that words said in a moment of anger will continue hurting the one you hurt during all his/her life. With time you learn that to say "I´m sorry", anybody does it, but to forgive is only done by great souls.
With time you figure out that although you are happy with your friends, someday you will cry for those ones you let go. With time you figure out that every experience you have lived is unique.
With time you figure out that the person who humiliates and despises to a human being, sooner or later he/she will suffer the same humiliations or scorns multiplied by two. With time you figure out that to hurry or to force things to happen, will cause that at the end they were not as you expected.
With time you figure out that in reality the future was not the best, if not the instant moment you were living. With time you will see that although you are happy with the ones you have at your side, you will miss the ones that yesterday were with you, but they have gone.
With time you will learn that try to forgive or to ask for forgiveness, say that you love, say that you miss, say that you need, say that you want to be a friend, in front of a tomb, has no sense.
But unfortunately, only with time...
You Learn - Jorge Luis Borges
